Introduction

The present love is an aspiration to bring to another only pleasure. The consciousness of that intimate affinity before marriage can turn back for love grief, should constrain young men always. Skill to own the instincts to constrain an impulse, to not cause the favourite person burning - one of pokakzatelej a maturity of love. The culture of behaviour of the young man and the girl is defined by that zoklotoj the middle at which the young man, being is free also a choice of a line of conduct, avoids the situations putting it sakmogo or the person close to it in awkward position. pomokzhet in it observance of some general rules of etiquette. In love as anywhere, the general(common) culture — skill obshchatksya is important to be benevolent, sensitive, tactful and close(attentive). From first steps of acquaintance feel the responsibility for destiny of the one who near to you. Be circumspect in words and acts. Be able to appreciate the and another's feelings, to preserve, aesthetically to show them. There is no girl who would remain indifferent to the presented colors(flowers). Me it is necessary greater(big) bouquets (they are intended for especially solemn occasions), it is enough to bring on appointment maklenky buketik or even one flower. The girl thanks for all the rendered signs on attention that it was pleasant to its(her) elect to remain careful and henceforth. Talking, do not forget about the interlocutor. Having caught, that to it(him) is boring, change a theme or allow to express and to it(him). It is possible and is necessary to attach the favourite person to the uvlekcheniyam, but it is very tactful. However do not try and "to knock down" the intelligence, knowledge. Young men need to remember, that the majority of girls predpokchitaet the delicacy combined tenderness. Does not follow poklagat, that courage is shown in inconsiderate napokristosti. Modern girls do not consider(count), that the guy should obyakzatelno to the first speak about feelings. But if to consider, what for the first time to speak about the feelings hardly, well, if it(he) vozmet this responsible(crucial) mission on itself. The love, as well as loving, is unique, do not copy another's attitudes(relations), and derive in the love of strength to become better, more kindly, more beautifully. Be iskrenni and are natural, avoid extreme measures in nakstroeniyakh, displays of feelings, do not give an occasion for mistrust. Farewell fine insults. Try to understand another, pomogajkte to self-improvement each other. Do not allow to humiliate neither the, nor another's advantage. Do not suppose insults, negative statements to address of a subject of your love, even if it(he) — a source of yours strakdany. Having grown fond, do not hide from the favourite person of the feelings. But being purposeful, avoid persistence. Polish journalist Yan Kamychek, concerning(touching) culture dobrachknykh attitudes(relations), not without humour gives some lessons of " intimate tactics » for girls: « Do not speak the elect, that it(him) you miss. Особа* which misses, it is uninviting. Do not repeat endlessly: « You already do not love me! » — it is possible to convince of it(this). Do not consider(count) favourite as the property, leave belief, that its(his) your feeling obyazyvaet, do not use the love in rolling stve the weapon and be not at war it(him).., not be too suspicious it pushes away and bothers... » And now lessons of tactics for young men: « to Girls in representatives of an opposite floor and ruyut a sincere maturity, sereznye plans for the future of purposefulness, the responsibility. Having got acquainted with the girl, whether never try to find out chaetsya it(she) now with somebody. *Встре " While between you general plans on butg the girl were not discussed has the right pokoketnichat ». Answering a question, what term is most desirable with вр* acquaintances before wedding, we shall refer to scientists, which schmtt " * that the best term — about one year; it is enough of it(this), that аЮТ* people have well learned(have well found out) a pier each other, romantic enthusiastically?!!! Has passed(has taken place), and novelty of attitudes(relations) was kept. However it is necessary to mark(aim), that this recommendation is not so obligatory. It is noticed, that when feeling of sympathy mutually and strongly enough the love of one can cause reciprocal feeling dpugo ° go. If this reciprocity is not present, the love can and irritate and push away. In that case, if you cannot return the feeling turned to you, try, that your refusal about-звучал in the most delicate form, has brought the least pain to other person that in years nothing has saddened your memoirs. Are immoral let and infrequent cases ekspluaktatsii sincere feeling of another, search in them of those or other benefits for itself. Well and how to be, how to behave, if you love and you are not present? First of all it is necessary to think, in what you do not hold out up to an ideal of the favourite person and if it is a noble ideal, it is necessary to work actively above yourself, improving a manner pokvedeniya, character, the sincere world, culture, external shape. That is behave adequately and be worthy your love. If your feeling remains meek(unrequited), in no event it is impossible to afford hostile attacks in relation to chekloveku, not loved you, to not try to discover at it(him) any lacks, to not humiliate its(his) advantage. The young man or dekvushka, caused your feelings, deserve the kindest pakmyati and the friendly attitude(relation). You choose the satellite (sputnitsu) for all life, so stokit still and once again to think before to declare(announce) to relatives and friends the decision to marry. But it is desirable, that acquaintance to relatives of your elect has occured(happened) zakdolgo before acceptance of such decision. Observing of a life of family in which the favourite person with whom you are going to connect the life has grown, it is possible to learn(find out) about it(him) a lot of new. Not isklyukcheno, that to you your some lacks will open also. If you will manage correctly to estimate(appreciate) seen can present your future family attitudes(relations) more correctly. If your friend with you is precautionary, and to mother happens is tactless or even is rough, it should guard you: it is not known, how it(he) will be otnoksitsya and to you. Our time is time when we, as a rule, vybira I eat, we speak about the feelings and we do(make) the offer. When the young man has already proposed favourite, proiskho dit grand welcome with parents of the future wife, it(she) is necessary not only to inform parents on the important decision, but also to solve a lot organizatsion nykh questions on forthcoming wedding, the future life a pier to a meeting of their parents and other. At our great-grandfathers and praoa shek in the way protected them from unnecessary peresudov, o engagement (arrangement, a betrothal). It(she) meant, that two people intend to marry and wish to inform(notify) about e native and familiar. In some areas of our country the interesting, kind and useful tradition is restored. molvka, not connecting young any formal At ' erects them in a rank of the groom and the bride, helps(assists) them luchshe^eyanoj each other, psychologically and morally to be prepared for a life or refuse the introduction in brak-Time ki before registration of marriage(spoilage) can to be used and for are thin a wedding celebration.